How safe do you really feel? Shifting from ego safe to heart and soul safe.

How safe do you feel? Seems like a simple question at first doesn’t it? It might trigger a thought process that involves assessing physical safety in the main, perhaps a little more. But there’s so much more to this question. This is a deep, deep enquiry, should you wish to entertain it. I would imagine more women than men may be able to access this question on a basic level when thinking of safety in terms of their relationship to men, prompted mainly by difference in physical size and strength. However, there is so much more, and is most certainly a question for everyone!

Feeling safe is a non negotiable in relationships; being able to access our full beings and potential, and feeling free enough to reveal our true selves to those closest to us, and ultimately, to everyone. This society has programmed us and engineered an environment where we are able to feel anything but safe. Our wounding keeps our hearts closed and our minds locked in places of self preservation, protection and survival. We disconnect to feel safe; solitude can feel so much safer than opening to that which we may perceive as risky or potentially harmful. Our egos are masters in shrouding us in smoke and mirrors, giving us the illusion that we feel safe, but in reality, when we peel back the layers, we feel anything but. Our bodies are so used to protecting us from threat in all senses, that to feel safe and anchored into our physical beings feels like a monumental task.

To entertain the idea of feeling fully safe in all senses, physically and emotionally and beyond, we first need to understand what real safety might feel like, and open to the possibility that at this point in time we don’t feel that. Not all the time anyway. Understand that the things we unwittingly do to make us feel safe are actually keeping us small, living at half capacity, disconnected and actually more scared than ever! We need to allow this concept to open up and give it space to show itself in the areas of our worlds that don’t feel safe. We are looking to move from feeling ego safe to heart and soul safe.

Inner child enquiry will be where this starts for most; the early years are where this patterning begins, only to be reinforced by attracting more of the same repeating experiences as we move through life. Moving deeper still we may feel called to explore ancestral and past life patterning, but that is a story for another day!

As with all healing, its an ongoing process, which offers the potential to feel confident and able to open up to new experiences and connections, to be able to lean into vulnerability, deepening and strengthening existing relationships. To show up as our true authentic selves and express without limitation or fear of judgement or failure, to the entire world, and nothing less!  It takes deep courage and fortitude to journey into this healing, but the rewards are surely worth every moment of discomfort. And you, my love, are worth every precious moment of your time and energy!